Lessons on Love

How to get over your Ex
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So have I told you guyssss how awesome my life is? hehe. It really feels good when you're finally able to just put the past behind you. So, how do you get over a break up? Here are some tips! Hope it helps, somehow. :)


STEPS TO GET OVER YOUR EX.
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1. Remember why you guys broke up in the first place. Even if it sometimes seems like the reason isn't good enough, just remember, there must have been TOO MANY reasons in the first place and that's why it has led to a break up.
   
   
2. Don't rethink the decision. Don't start getting all weak thinking of only the good times that you forget the reason why you broke it off. MAN UP,WOMAN! STAND ON YOUR FEET, AND MOVE FORWARD. Ask yourself this, would you have been happy if you stayed? Would there have been more good times or bad times?
   
   
3. Avoid all sorts of contact. It's best to stay away from each other for the time being and this means no text messages, no phone calls, no checking up on his Facebook profile(delete him if its gonna help you from wanting to check up on him) and so on. Until you feel you can converse with each other without either one having an ulterior motive, then only are you both ready to be friends.
   
   
4. Deal with the hate phase.You may start hating yourself or your ex for having wasting your time, stop feeling that way because there is no point wasting your energy on something that you have no power to change.
   
   
5. Talk to your family and friends. I always think it's important to talk to someone you can fully trust after a break up, be it your mum, your dad, your brother, your sister, your bestfriend, maybe even your dog or your cat. But be wary of friends who try to make you get over your ex by trying to hook you up with someone else. Trust me, you don't need this right now and you probably wouldn't be able to handle it because getting over someone takes time, and it would be a totally bitchy thing to do as well to make the other party a rebound. Don't forget, he/she has feelings too.
   
   
6. Write down all the negative things of your ex and remind yourself everyday. Write down a list of all the things(more like turn-offs) you didn't like about your ex "He had bad breath, he had an ugly smile, his feet were smelly etcetc", just anything that would make this person LESS attractive in your eyes.
   
   
7. Write your feelings down. Writing in down in a journal, a poem or even a song really helps get all the bottled up emotions out. So, just write.
   
   
8. Remove the memory triggers. Remove anything that reminds you of him/her. Photos, journals you both shared, a book he gave you, anything that could possibly bring tears to your eyes just by looking at it. Either throw it away or store it all in a box like I did.
   
   
9. Find happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family, signing up for that class you've always wanted to take or spending your free time reading. Go exercise as well. When you're fit and healthy, when you look good, you'll also feel good.
   
   Remind yourself that a relationship is one part of life, but even when you are in one, there are personal pleasures that you can always enjoy on your own. Indulge in those things now. As they say, the best revenge is living well and being happy. Enjoy being single!
   
   
10. Let go. Understand that there is no benefit in holding on to heartache, regret, and hatred toward another person. Realize that although it is over, your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways. You can congratulate yourself for being brave enough to take a risk and fall in love, and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.
    
    
    

(Full Source: http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up)

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I hope you found that useful! Just remember, life doesn't revolve around relationships and love. There's so much more out there, and if you're young, now's not the time to worry about that, just enjoy being a TEENAGER!

See, look at me, I'm single and I look HAPPY. LOOK AT HOW HAPPY I LOOK IN THE PHOTOS. COME ON! CAN YOU SEE? :D Kay fine, just wanted to show you my camwhoring shots. Hahah. well I hope all of you are doing well!

Till the next entry. I got a request to blog about "How to lose weight effectively and healthily", requested by Rasyiqah and 16 other girls. I will get to that! Right now I'm on "Project Megan Fox Body", so I'll blog about that if I do see results! :)


Lots of Love,
Sofia Dendroff